Tuesday 22 November 2011

Quotes on Marriage


 
To get the full value of joy
You must have someone to divide it with.
Mark Twain

One advantage of marriage, it seems to me, is that when you fall out of love with each other, it keeps you together until maybeyou fall in love again.
Judith Viorst

One of the best things about marriage is that it gets young people to bed at a decent hour.  ~M.M. Musselman

It's you I like,
It's not the things you wear.
It's not the way you do your hair,
But it's you I like.
The way you are right now
The way down deep inside you
Not the things that hide you
Not your diplomas...
They're just beside you.
But it's you I like,
Every part of you,
Your skin, your eyes, your feelings,
Whether old or new.
I hope that you'll remember
Even when you're feeling blue,
That it's you I like,
It's you yourself, it's you
It's you I like!
Mr Rogers

It is sometimes essential for a husband and a wife to quarrel - they get to
know each other better.
Goethe

A good marriage is the union of two good forgivers.
Ruth Bell Graham

A perfect marriage is one in which "I'm sorry" is said just often enough.  ~Mignon McLaughlin

No man is truly married until he understands every word his wife is NOT saying.
Unknown

I never knew what real happiness was until I got married.  And by then it was too late.  ~Max Kauffman

Mother-in-law:  a woman who destroys her son-in-law's peace of mind by giving him a piece of hers.  ~Author Unknown

Bachelors know more about women than married men; if they didn't they'd be married too.  ~H.L. Mencken

God created sex.  Priests created marriage.  ~Voltaire

Marriage is the only war in which you sleep with the enemy.  ~François, Duc de La Rochefoucauld

Getting divorced just because you don't love a man is almost as silly as getting married just because you do.  ~Zsa Zsa Gabor

Love is blind, but marriage restores its sight.  ~Samuel Lichtenberg


A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband.  ~Michel de Montaigne, Essays

Friday 4 November 2011

DCE closes down

૩૦ નવેમ્બરથી કેન્દ્ર સરકારનાં MHRD દ્વારા ચાલતું   District Centre for English નું રાજકોટનાં આ સેન્ટરની અવધી પૂરી થતા બંધ થશે. છેલ્લા સવા બે વર્ષથી હું અહી છું. એક જગ્યાએ લાંબો સમય નોકરી કરાવી મારા માટે શક્ય નથી એ જોતા અઢી વર્ષનો ગાળો ઘણો મોટો લાગે છે! મને ગમ્યું જ હશે એટલે જ ટક્યો હોઈશ પણ છેલ્લા અમુક મહિનાથી સ્થગિતતાનો અનુભવ થતો હતો. હજુ મને પણ ખબર નથી આવતા મહીને હું ક્યાં હોઈશ. ફક્ત એટલી જ ખબર છે કયાંક તો હોઈશ જ. નોકરીઓ થી કંટાળી ગયો છું એટલે ઘણા સમયથી જે coaching institute ખોલવાનો વિચાર છે.

Thursday 3 November 2011

Joseph Macwan's "Angaliyat"

I finished reading Joseph Macwan's "Angaliyat" yesterday. Tiha's death in the end fills our eyes with tears. It is considered the best book in Dalit literature in Gujarati. I want to talk something about Dalit literature before I write about the book. Being a city-guy, I always felt that there was no need of Dalit literature in this 21st century. But later I came across the some Dalit writers who have experienced the injust pracitice of untouchability and insults. As long as Dalit continues to experience this, Dalit literature will exist. Even now Dalit writers think it necessary to write about the ill-treatment that they have to face in their day-to-day life. In cities this ill-treatment may be obscure, but in villages where real India is said to exist, condition of Dalit is not that happy. They are not allowed to live in particular areas, they are not allowed to enter the temples, people keep them at respectable distance. This distance is physical as well as mental. Those who are illiterate and used to this kind of malpractice keep mum, but those Dalits who are educated and rational in thier thinking do not succumb to the insults. They revolt against this and many who can write, put their anger into words so that the world can know what they are suffering from.

"Anglaliyat" is a story of two friends-Tiha and Valji- from the wankar community in South of Gujarat. They weave the sheets and sell them in a nearby village-markets. On one such occasion they go to a village where one boy from the groups throws stone at the earthen pot which Methi, the heroine of the novel- was carrying. Those boys belonged to Patidar community. When Tiha sees this, he challenges the boys and it creates a lot of problem for him later in the novel. Tiha falls in love with the girl, but now it was not possible for him to go to the village. The vengeful Patidars in that village come to know that Tiha has soft corner for Methi, so they try to get her married to the man of her own community to whom she was married in childhood.

Tiha's friend Valji prepares a plan so that these lovers can meet and get married, but unfortunately gets killed. His wife Kanku laments the death, but still doesn't hate Tiha. Tiha feels he is responsible for ruining the happy married life of Valji and Kankubhabhi so he vows not to marry at all. He thinks he can't enjoy the carnal pleasure with MEthi when Kankubhabhi is leading a lonely life. Later in the novel when he is forced to marry, he talks about the re-marriage of Kankubhbhi to Valji's younger brother. It is irony that when Kanku is ready for the marriage, Methi is married already to her childhood husband! Methi becomes mother of a son, tries to forget Tiha and live with his husband happily but could not do so because her husband used to beat her brutally. One day she beats her husband and thinking that he is dead, she runs away with her son to commit suicide by jumping in the well. When she was about to jump in the well, Tiha clutches her hand and explain her not to do so. She comes to Tiha's house and decides to live alone. Both could not marry because Methi's husband was not dead as she thought that day. Methi forces Tiha to marry a nice girl as there was no meaning leaving a lonely life. Tiha gets married and just after some times Methi's husband dies!

In the last chapters, Tiha is attacked by the those old enemies and this time they beat him with sticks so brutally that he succumbs to death. When the news of his death reaches Methi, She becomes mad with the shock.She keep crying continously. People had never ever seen any woman crying that way, not ever for the husband. Methi without telling anyone, stops having meals and dies withing few days of his beloved Tiha.